Yup. Also, we’re teaching them that someone else’s “want” is more important than theirs. And when a child says no and the adult grabs them anyway, we teach them how to respond to no — take it anyway.

It’s important to teach kids that they have autonomy, and that their comfort level matters — I’m glad this message is becoming more common. When I taught it to my daughter a couple of decades ago, it wasn’t very common and my entire family was terribly offended.

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