Yeah, I know someone who is the same way and I used to wonder why her husband didn’t just leave, but I’ve stopped wondering long ago. And you’re right, constant anger isn’t healthy for anyone. It’s why I’m divorced too. In a healthy marriage, no one needs control or dominance — maybe that’s why there’s so few healthy marriages, I don’t know. As for the first sentence, I suspect people marry for different reasons. Ideally, it’s love. I’m just not sure everyone defines that the same way.