Wow, Danny, do you ever sound like a guy that just came back from a Tony Robbins seminar. lol.

Just wanted to add to your thoughts on certainty. I don’t think it’s impossible to build certainty. But I don’t think that’s where it starts.

It’s true that humans are influenced by other people’s opinions, but even more so, they’re influenced by that little voice in the back of their mind that whispers nasty stuff at them. And we can get rid of all the bad influences around us, but we can’t get rid of that little voice.

So, it has to start with plausibility. Most people reading your post won the birth lottery. They’re not living in mud hut with no running water, much less internet. But they don’t see that. They see “everyone else” succeeding and fall into “it must be me” syndrome.

Several years ago, I worked with a young couple who were facing bankruptcy because they couldn’t figure out how to make their business work. 18 months later, they’d made over a million. It all came down to helping them re-frame how they think. Thoughts feed beliefs, beliefs feed actions, actions feed thoughts. Most people are stuck in a trap of their own thinking patterns.

So they need to start with plausibility. Figure out why maybe, just maybe, this might be possible. And as results come in baby steps, those steps lead to more certainty. You can’t wave a magic wand and give anyone certainty, but they can create it through re-framing thoughts and taking steps that get incremental results.

Hope you enjoyed the conference. Sounds like you did! :)

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