In contrast, if a person robs you at knifepoint, the police don’t ask if you, in your hearts of hearts, wanted to be robbed or had asked to be robbed or had led the robber on. The prosecuting attorney doesn’t prepare you for testifying by making sure you had no desire to be …
This is it in a nutshell. They don’t ask you that in any other instance than rape.
It might be a gross over-simplification, but it seems to me the root of the problem is that “society” has never cared about much unless it affects straight white men. If straight white men were getting raped in the numbers woman are, how we handle rape cases would change real quick.