Shannon, this article is so many shades of awesome. People can be such uneducated judgmental dicks to each other and I’m sorry you’ve had some of the experiences you have.
Even doctors don’t understand enough about how the pieces fit together and the average person knows even less.
We are not defined by how we look or how much we weigh. If I was to choose any criteria on how to define people, it would be by how we treat other humans and a lot of folk are doing really badly at that.