Often, those conversations don't happen because they HAVE happened and nothing changed and you can't keep having the same argument because it's toxic and tiresome. So you shove it under the carpet where it can seethe in silence until the day you're worn out from being the default housekeeper by virtue of gender. That's why so many women over 50 are saying enough. Done. No more. Saying exactly what Zara did. I gave her 50 claps. You, too. :)