Jeebus Rick, I laughed. First, no I don’t think it’s patriarchal shit to speak up when someone dishes crap because one of the nicer parts of humanity is standing up for each other now and again. Women do it, too.
Also, I’ve met defenseless women. 2 of the most defenseless women I know are my sisters. Don’t ask me how that happened. I guess I got their share in addition to my own. Or something.
I like that thing your teacher said — thank you for sharing it. It’s a much better way to think than just writing those people off as asshats. lol.
Last, but most important. It was never about writing good. It was (and is) only ever about writing what matters. You know?