…is the primary perk of my gender: silent permission to rage at that which frightens, or frustrates. Society makes space for male anger, which is why more men aren’t more embarrassed post-outburst. Men who are successful are allowed to get angry at those who defy them. Men who are failures are also allowed to get angry at those who defy them. This is the deal. No matter a man’s lot in life he is entitled to yell. And the world is supposed to cower, or endure, the spittle-flecked gibberish.
I like the honesty in this piece but I’d like to point out that anger and abuse are not the same thing. Anger is just an emotion. Something we feel, not something we do. We all feel anger sometimes. Part of being human.
Unleashing a tirade of red faced yelling and shouting and spittle flying isn’t anger — its verbal abuse. Anger is just an emotion. Something we feel. Abuse is an action. Something we do.
Everyone is entitled to feel anger. No one is entitled to be abusive.