I like the concept of amor fati — but I don’t think it’s meant to be all encompassing.

For example, when my father died, should I be glad it happened when it did?

I do think we could all stand to look for silver linings a little more. To look at our own mistakes and at things others do “to” us and look for the lesson we can learn and be grateful for the opportunity TO learn and grow.

We could all stand to harness our negativity bias a little, but with respect for true losses that were never meant to be celebrated.