…ing, and the gross sucking noises he made — prevents me from seeking the nuance in such a lewd act. Being told to perform fellatio because a man doesn’t like what you told him and wants to silence you leaves zero room for nuance, anyway. At the time, my only options were to choose between jumping over the railing, getting into…
Exactly. It would be easy to write those men off as jerks, neanderthals who don’t know any better. But that’s a lie. Every one of those men suddenly and magically behaves different when facing someone they perceive as above them in pecking order.
They don’t go to work and yell “suck my dick” at their boss. They don’t make stroking motions and sucking noises at their mother. They do know better. That behavior is intended to insult and degrade. I’m glad you used the term pernicious, because that’s exactly what it is. This was a good read. :)