Exactly. It would be easy to write those men off as jerks, neanderthals who don’t know any better. But that’s a lie. Every one of those men suddenly and magically behaves different when facing someone they perceive as above them in pecking order.
They don’t go to work and yell “suck my dick” at their boss. They don’t make stroking motions and sucking noises at their mother. They do know better. That behavior is intended to insult and degrade. I’m glad you used the term pernicious, because that’s exactly what it is. This was a good read. :)